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Friendship (A note from my archive)

Friendship is one of the most tangible things in a world which offers fewer and fewer support. Often times, it is suddenly contracted and therefore it is no wonder it is easily dissolved. Friendship can and does exist between persons with similar interests and points of view. We are born with different interests and different points of views, many a times the society forces us on each other, hence it could very well be a full-time occupation to be friendly with someone. You can’t have too many friends because they won’t then be real friends. (2 Samuel 16:16-19)

The greatest sweetener of human life is Friendship. To raise this to the highest pitch of enjoyment, is a secret which but few discover. Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation. (Luke 11:5-8)

On the other hand, if a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man, should keep his friendship in constant repair. Accountability in friendship is the equivalent of love without strategy. Therefore, all love that has not friendship for its base, Is like a mansion built upon the sand. (Proverbs 18:24a)

Friendship is but another name for an alliance with the follies and the misfortunes of others. I ask myself atimes; “My own share of miseries is sufficient, why enter then as a volunteer into that of another?” the answer probably is that my friendship is not in my power to give: it is a gift that no man can make. It is not in our own power, a sound and healthy friendship is the growth of time and circumstance, it will spring up and thrive like a wildflower in good or bad times. So it is in vain to look for it. (Proverbs 17:17)

It is easy enough to be friendly to one’s friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The former must be mere business. For some the sacrifices of friendship are beautiful as long as they are not the ones making them. (Proverbs 19:6b)

There are persons who cannot make friends. Who are these? They are the ones who cannot be friends. It is not the want of understanding or good nature, or useful qualities that you complain of. On the contrary, they have probably many points of attraction; but they have one that neutralizes all these: the fact that they care nothing about you, and are neither the better nor worse for what you think of them. They manifest no joy at your approach; and when you leave them, it is with a feeling that they can do just as well without you. This is not sullenness, nor indifference, nor absence of mind; but they are intent solely on their own thoughts, and you are merely one of the subjects they exercise them upon. They live in society as in solitude. (Proverbs 27:6, Micah 7:5)

Therefore, it then follows that what men have called friendship is only a social arrangement, a mutual adjustment of interests, an interchange of services given and received; it is, in summary, simply a business from which those involved propose to derive a steady profit for their own self-love. As the saying goes; Love is blind, but friendship closes its eyes. Love is only a chatter while friends are all that matter. So, laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is by far the best ending for one. So take care of yourself and your loved ones.

Make a sincere friend today!

Afolabi Williams© September, 2002

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Posted by on August 27, 2012 in Uncategorized


Na Who I go Ask?

Great people of a great nation, I want to borrow a chorus from a recent Omawumi’s track, which goes thus;

If you ask me; na who I go ask?
The matter wey we see so, e tay wey e start
No be me go talk am, e heavy for mouth
If you ask me…The matter for ground…
Eh! Na who I go ask?

But wait, so who I go ask now?

An Indigenous proverbs says, nwata ruru ima akwa ma n’anu ara nne ya, gini ka anyi g’eme ya? Translated to English, what should we do to a child old enough to tie loin clothes if he continues to suck on his mother’s breasts?

Enough don dey reach enough, wetin now? Dem dey call person thief, he still dey carry goat pikin dey dance round about town even go do march past for town hall, when shame go begin catch some people sef? E lelia nwa ite, o gbonyua oku, meaning that if you neglect the pot, it boils over and extinguishes the fire. Time is running out, in fact we have approached dying minutes such that people are dying by the minutes, either by natural causes or Boko Haram induced!

Agwo emeghi nke o jiri buru agwo, umuaka achiri ya hie nku, if a snake fails to show its venom, little kids will use it in tying firewood. Boko Haram has toyed, played with the government and it seems the only answer the government has is no answer. I ask you now, why won’t they ask the president to ‘become a Muslim or resign?’

Azu na-eloghi ibe ya adighi ebu, a fish that does not swallow other fishes does not grow fat. Mr President, there are occasions where one acts without qualms.

We should remember that atoroomara ya mara; atoro ofege nya febiri, when a parable is spoken to a wise man he understands it; but with the foolish it is not so.  It is also true that ekpere niile bere n’amen, all prayers end in amen, he who has ears, let him listen and tell the others, time is running out!


Posted by on August 8, 2012 in Uncategorized